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Mwana wanga wamwamuna wazaka 10 wangoyamba kumene kukula.Panali nthawi yomwe ndidangotenga zovala zake kapena kumupatsa zinthu zambiri kuchokera kwa msuweni wanga, koma amakonda kwambiri mafashoni ndipo ndizozizira kwambiri.Kupatula kukhala limodzi, tinali ndi nthawi yabwino.Masiku ano, simuloledwa kugwiritsa ntchito chipinda chovala.Ndikamuuza saizi ya zovala zoti agule sandikhulupilira!Iye ndi munthu wonyengerera, ndikufuna kukhala wamng'ono kwambiri, ndipo amakhumudwa ndikamuuza munthu wamkulu kuposa yemwe amamuyesa.Amafuna zovala zing'onozing'ono kwambiri… Koma tsopano ali ndi zaka 10 zokha, ndipo zovala za ana zazing'ono sizoyenera.Titafika kunyumba, adavala saizi yomwe ndidasankha, imandikwanira, koma nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndidali munthu woyipa ndikukana kamphindi kakang'ono, kamakhalabe m'sitolo.Ngati saizi yomwe mwavalayo ndi yaying'ono komanso yaying'ono, chifukwa chiyani kukula kwake kumasiyana m'sitolo?Kodi ndinganene chiyani kuti ndithetse kusamvana kumeneku popanda kumukhumudwitsa?N’chifukwa chiyani amaumirira kuvala zovala zazing’ono movutikira?
Kodi mwaganiza zogula zovala zambiri pa intaneti?Popeza kuti mwana wanu sangathe kuyesa zovala m'chipinda chotsekera mu 2020, zikuwoneka kuti mutha kupewa kuwonekera komanso kusokonekera pagulu, ngakhale zitanthauza kuti mudzaphonya kugula zovala zosangalatsa.Mfundo yobwereza yopanda zovuta m'masitolo ambiri a pa intaneti nthawi zambiri imatanthawuza kuti mumangofunika kugula mathalauza awiri, limodzi laling'ono, ndikubwezeretsanso mathalauza panthawi yogula.Vutoli litha kuthetsedwa mosavuta .Vomerezani monyinyirika kuti zoulutsira nkhani ndizoyenera.(Yankho lina: ingoyitanitsani atolankhani ndikudula zilembo asanaziwone.)
Ndikuvomereza kuti mnyamata wazaka 10 amakonda kwambiri maganizo kuposa anzake.Sindikuganiza kuti muyenera kudziwa msanga mwana wanu kuti ali ndi vuto lililonse la kudya kapena kupunduka, koma ndilabadira kwambiri momwe amamvera ndikulankhula za thupi lake akamayamba kutha msinkhu, komanso ngati akupitirizabe kusonyeza kusakhutira kwake. thupi ndi kudzikonda Kusiyana pakati pa malingaliro ndikofunika kukambirana ndi dokotala.
Komabe, chifukwa cha lingaliro lake louma khosi, mibadwo ingapo ya makolo yathetsa vuto la kukula kwa mwanayo ndi mawu amatsenga anayi: “Udzakula.”Nthawi zonse vutoli likabuka, ndikupangira kuti muwatumize.
Poganizira zonse zomwe zimachitika padziko lapansi, iyi si nkhani yokhudzidwa kwambiri, koma tikugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti tiganizire za danga ndi mwana watsopano.Ine ndi mwamuna wanga tikuyembekezera mwachidwi mwana wathu wachiŵiri m’mwezi wa March.Tili ndi mwana wamwamuna wazaka ziwiri, yemwe adzakhala awiri ndi theka mwana watsopano akadzafika.Nyumba yathu ili ndi zipinda ziwiri pansanjika yachiwiri, ndipo nyumba yomalizidwa bwino idzakhala imodzi mwa zipinda za ana.Bafa la ana lili pansanjika yachiwiri, pafupi ndi chipinda cha mwana wanga.Tsopano, mwana wathu wamwamuna ali m'chipinda chapafupi ndi ife.Pafupifupi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi atabadwa, mwana watsopanoyo adzakhala m'chipinda chathu, koma mukuganiza kuti yankho labwino kwambiri ndi chiyani?Mwana wathu wamwamuna adzachita maphunziro a potty pamene khanda likuchoka m'chipinda chathu, ngati timusunthira ku chipinda chapamwamba, adzafunika kuyendetsa masitepe otsetsereka kupita kuchimbudzi usiku.Kumbali ina, ngati tiika khanda latsopano m’chipinda chapamwamba, tidzadya mozondoka.Kodi tidzamuika mwanayo m'chipinda chapamwamba mpaka mwana wanga atakula ndi kuphunzitsidwa bwino za poto?Ndimadandaula za kusintha kwakukulu chipinda chikakula, koma ndikufuna kuti mwana wanga wamkulu akhale ndi chipinda chapamwamba kwa nthawi yaitali.M'kupita kwa nthawi, kodi mukuganiza kuti njira yabwino kwambiri ndi iti?
O, ndi zophweka kwambiri.Ikani mwanayo m'chipinda chapamwamba.Mudzayamikira mtunda wowonjezera pang'ono, ndipo mwana wanu adzakhala wokondwa kuti sipadzakhalanso kusintha kwakukulu m'moyo wake komwe kwatsala pang'ono kusintha.Kutembenuka mkati mwa zaka zingapo kudzakhala kosavuta, chifukwa mwanayo adzalandira bedi la mchimwene wake wamkulu ndi chipinda cha mchimwene wake wamkulu, pamene mchimwene wake wamkulu adzakhala ndi malo ake apamwamba, omwe adzakonzedwanso mosamala kuti awonetse zomwe amakonda, ndikumukonzekeretsa. yokhala ndi bedi lalikulu komanso lokongola la single.
Pafupifupi chaka chapitacho, banja la mwamuna wanga linatipatsa kasewero kakang’ono kokongola monga mphatso ya ana aang’ono.Ndikukhulupirira kuti adawononga ndalama zambiri.Tinkada nkhawa ndi kusokoneza chikhalidwe ndipo tinaganiza zosunga pambuyo pokambirana kangapo.Timalankhula mwachangu za tsankho ndi ana, ali aang'ono kwambiri kuti amvetsetse chifukwa chake sitikhala omasuka ndi mphatso.Mayi anga nthawi zonse amandiuza kuti upatsa munthu mphatso ndi kufuna kwawo ndipo amafunsa mwamwano.Komabe, agogo anga aakazi sakuwoneka kuti ali ndi mtengo uwu.Kwa chaka chatha, wakhala akufunsa mwamuna wanga chifukwa si mu zithunzi iliyonse timatumiza.Mwamuna wanga ankakonda kudzutsa nkhaniyi ponena kuti tinalibe malo okwanira, zomwe zingakhale kapena ayi.
Komabe, tasamuka ndipo tsopano pali malo - tsopano akuvutika kumenyera chifukwa chake sitinayikhazikitsebe.Apongozi anga angadabwe ndi tsankho lawo, ngakhale kuti ndimakhulupirira kuti tonsefe tili ndi zikhulupiriro za tsankho ndipo tiyenera kuchita khama kuti tigonjetse zikhulupiriro zimenezi.Ndamumva akundifotokozera zambiri za ine, ngakhale palibe kufotokoza momveka bwino.Panthaŵiyo, ndinam’limbikitsa mosapita m’mbali kuti aganizire zimene ananena, zomwe zinkawoneka kuti zimamudodometsa pang’ono.Koma ndikuganiza kuti zinthu zasintha pang'ono.Anatipatsa mphatso zimene ankaona kuti n’zabwino.Kodi mungaganizire njira yothetsera vutoli pamene tikusunga ubale wathu ndi iye?
Inde, muli ndi ufulu wouza amayi anu kuti simukukhutira ndi mphatso imene anapatsa mwana wanuyo.Moyenera, muyenera kukhala omasuka mokwanira wina ndi mnzake kuti zokambirana pakati pa onse awiri zikhale zosavuta komanso zopanda zolakwika.Munganene kuti, “Mukudziwa, ndawerengapo mabuku ena, ndipo sitikufuna kuyika kapepala m’nyumba chifukwa amachotsa tanthauzo la miyambo yosagwirizana ndi azungu.”Mungagwire mawu mlembi wa komweko Nkhaniyo ikufotokoza mmene kuphwanya chikhalidwe kumeneku kungawononge ngakhale m’magawo ooneka ngati opanda vuto monga zoseŵeretsa ana.
Ndipotu, mukanacheza ndi apongozi anu pamene anakupatsani mphatso chaka chapitacho.Ndikhulupilira mwatero!Zimenezi zingakhale zosavuta.Tsopano, mwatha chaka mukunyalanyaza pempho lake la mphatso za adzukulu ake okondedwa kuti azisewera nawo.M'malingaliro anga, zopempha izi ndi zomveka ngati siziri zomwe amayi anu akufuna.Ndi agogo ati amene sakufuna kuwona zithunzizo?Mwamuna wanu wagwidwa ndi bodza pakati pa amayi omwe ali ndi chisoni m'maganizo ndi mkazi yemwe samakonda amayi ake chifukwa palibe malo okwanira a nsonga, ndipo tsopano mukukhala malo akuluakulu, ndipo bodza lawululidwa. .
Ndikukulimbikitsani kuuza apongozi anu zoona za Tippi momveka bwino komanso mokoma mtima.Njira yaubwenzi ndikukambirana naye ndikuzindikira ulendo womwe mudzadutse nthawi ina, kuyambira poganiza kuti zoseweretsa ngati zoseweretsa za Tippi zilibe vuto mpaka kuzindikira kuti ndi lingaliro loipa, osati ngati munthu aliyense wowunikiridwa ali ndi momwe amamvetsetsa lingaliro ili. iye.Pokhapokha ngati mulibe zitsanzo zoonekeratu za kusalolera ndi khalidwe loipa mu kalata yanu, apongozi anu amawoneka ngati munthu wokoma kwambiri, wachikulire wabwinobwino, ngakhale kuti sizingakhale zabwino monga amayi anu, koma siziyenera kulandiridwa Kuchiza mano. .Kalata yanu ikutanthauza kuti mukufuna kumupatsa.
Kodi mumatani mukamakhumudwa nthawi zonse, kukalipiridwa, kapena zinthu zina zoipa zimene mwana wanu akukumana nazo?Ine ndi mwamuna wanga timagwira ntchito kunyumba ndipo tilibe chithandizo chosamalira ana, choncho mwana wathu wazaka 6 amangosangalala kwa maola angapo nthaŵi imodzi.Mbali yomwe yangopangidwa kumeneyi yandithandiza kwambiri m'miyezi ingapo yoyambirira yomwe ndimakhala kunyumba, pamene ndimayesa kufuna chidwi changa ndikudikirira chigongono chake.Sanadzitetezere kwathunthu-ndinamuyang'ana mphindi 20 zilizonse kapena kupitilira apo (kapena nthawi zambiri ngati adangokhala chete), ndipo tinali ndi nthawi yokhazikika ya 1:1 tsiku lonse.Amadzilankhula yekha, kusewera ndi zoseweretsa, kujambula zithunzi, kudula mapepala kukhala zidutswa miliyoni imodzi, ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito matepi osawerengeka.Ndizodabwitsa.Koma anachitanso zinthu zambiri zomwe sayenera kuchita: kupenta pamakoma, kupaka zomatira zosiyanasiyana (zomatira, zotsukira mkamwa, zotsukira m'manja, shampu, ngakhale botolo la mafuta oteteza ku dzuwa) pamalo onse ogwirika, kumeta tsitsi Lokha, cheka zovala zake. , kusiya misozi zomera, etc.
Ndikuwona, iye ndi wotopetsa.Ndimayesetsa kuleka zinthu zing’onozing’onozi, kumulola kuti athandize kuyeretsa chisokonezocho, ndi kumuwongolera pokhapokha atachita zinthu zowononga kwambiri kapena zoopsa.Ndidayesetsa kumveketsa zomwe ndikuyembekezera ndikumupatsa njira zovomerezeka zosokoneza, kuyesa komanso kuwononga.Ndikhulupirireni, ndikuzindikira kuti izi zikuwoneka zosasangalatsa-ojambula amakono / anarchists / othandizira chipwirikiti sakufuna kutuluka kwachisokonezo chovomerezeka.Pomaliza, zimamveka ngati ubale pakati pathu wakhala wokhazikika, monga, ayi, musachite zimenezo, musayeretse tsopano, chonde musawononge, musachite zimenezo.Nayenso ankangondiyang’ana, ngati kuti ndikuwononga mwayi wake wonse wa chimwemwe padziko lapansi.Ndimadzimva kukhala wonyozeka, ngati ndodo m’matope, ndipo ndatopa nayo.ndithandizeni!
Chaka chino chakhala chovuta kwa aliyense, koma chakhala chaka choyipa kwambiri kwa makolo a ana aang'ono.Ana anga ndi okalamba kotero kuti masewero omwe amakumana nawo m'chipindamo ndi "lawi pa Reddit" m'malo mwa "kuphimba khoma la sunscreen" - izi zimakhala zovuta, koma zosasokonezeka.
Ndikuganiza kuti mwana wanu wazaka 6 akhoza kukana "Mwamuna" kotero kuti angakane "njira yosokoneza yovomerezeka", koma ndikuganiza kuti mungakhale ndi zolosera.Ana ambiri azaka 6 sadzakhala mu chisokonezo chifukwa iwo ndi Antifa.Monga mwanenera, akusokoneza chifukwa ndi otopetsa.Ndipo ndizotheka kuphatikiza nthawi ndi malo ovomerezeka kuti chisokonezo chikhale miyoyo yawo osatseka.Mutha kuganizira zomuyika tebulo la matope m'chipinda chake ndi m'mphepete mwake, kapena kujambula makoma ake ndi penti ya bolodi, kapena kuphimba bafa ndi chopukutira ndikulengeza tsiku lililonse Sewerani m'madzi 2 koloko masana.
Makolo anu akakhumudwa ngati inuyo, zochita zanu zonse zimasintha.Koma ndikufuna kukukumbutsani kuti izi sizili choncho, ndithudi, iwo omwe akhazikika mu mtima mwanu, koma ndikutsimikiza kuti nthawi imodzi-imodzi ya tsiku sikungotemberera.Mukupereka chikondi chochuluka ndi chithandizo kwa yemwe akubwera, zomwe zidzawonekere mu biopic yake yosankhidwa ndi Oscar.
Chinthu chomaliza: Munatchula kuti inu ndi mwamuna wanu nonse mumagwira ntchito kunyumba, koma kenako anasowa m’makalata anu otsala.Ndine wotsimikiza kuti amagwedeza mutu wake mphindi 20 zilizonse kuti asaphimbe mphaka ndi polishi wa nsapato, sichoncho?Ngati sichoncho, chonde mukumbutseni kuti sikuli chilungamo kukhala munthu yekhayo amene amatsutsa Little Jackson chifukwa chophimba duvet ndi ketchup, monganso simuyenera kukhala nokha munthu woganiza za momwe angagwiritsire ntchito moyo wa mwana wanu wamkazi mosangalala momwe mungathere.
Mu podcast yolerera ya Slate "Amayi ndi Abambo akumenyana," nthano ya mpira Abby Wambach posachedwa adayankha funso kuchokera kwa makolo a mwana wazaka 4 yemwe "anali wothamanga kwambiri".Kukonda kwambiri masewera.
"Ndikuganiza kuti ana akachoka m'bwalo la mpira, timagawana nawo zinthu zitatu.Choyamba: Ndimakonda kuwonera mukusewera.Nthawi.Chachiwiri: Mukumva bwanji?Mukumva bwanji pamenepo?Chachitatu: Zomwe mwaphunzira lero Zomwe simumadziwa kale?Ndichoncho.Pambuyo pa masewera a mpira, mumangofunika kuuza ana anu izi, chifukwa pali zinthu zina.Mukuwauza mosapita m’mbali kuti chikondi chanu chimadalira ngati ali abwino kapena oipa.Zisokonezo pa bwalo.Njira yonse yamasewera ndikulakwitsa, kugwirizana, kulakwitsa komanso kugwirizana. "
Kuti mupeze yankho lathunthu la Wambach, mverani zigawo zaposachedwa ndikulembetsa kuti "Amayi ndi Abambo Akumenyana" kulikonse kumene mungamvetsere podcast.
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